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I have the amazing blessing in my life to be able to raise four beautiful daughters. Their ages range from 15 to 7. As with all families, their personalities and interests are wildly different. The overall mood and atmosphere that these little women create is mostly unified and pleasant. There are times though when aggressiveness and competitiveness sours that mood. While researching the Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, I really appreciated the fourth habit which is: Think Win Win. This habit focuses on the principle that if we work effectively with others, we will achieve optimal results. I like the quote, "when one side benefits more than the other, that's a win-lose situation. To the winner it might look like success for a while, but in the long run, it breeds resentment and distrust." -Stephen R. Covey. I find this so true not only within my little club of girls, but also within my marriage. Once you start thinking more about yourself instead of the greater good of your family, that is when things start falling apart. It is easy to see, but not so easy to change. In order for this to become more of a habit within our family we need to be able to:
1- Stick with our true feelings, values, and commitments
2-Express our ideas and feelings with consideration for the ideas and feelings of others
3-Believe there is plenty for everyone
I am excited to have a good discussion with my family about this so that we can become more aware. I think when we integrate these ideas into our daily practice, we will be able to become more united and strong with the habit of win win.

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